We all have stories to tell. Each and everyone of us.
We've all had life lessons that have shaped and molded us into the person that we are today.
Personally I'm of the belief that everything happens for a reason. Yes, even the bad. It's there to teach and guide you. Sometimes you can't see it immediately but eventually the clarity will come, and it's this that will make you a stronger person.
For me my journey with depression was initially held very close, shared only with my Husband. I'd just had a baby and thought I should have been in state of contented bliss. It was nothing like what I imagined it be.
I felt ashamed to admit to family and friends that I wasn't coping. After all a baby is what I had yearned for.
Only the other night Hubby and I were talking on how he felt about my PND and how difficult and heartbreaking it was for him. The focus is on the Mum and baby, and helping her cope, when it's the Dad that needs just as much support.
There are many books out there on PND and depression so I suppose it would be more of a cathartic exercise for me to do. To let go of the remaining guilt that I've held onto for last 15 years of not having that instant connection with my very much wanted son.
The most important message I would want to express is that a woman is not a failure as Mum if there's not an initial bonding or if a woman does suffer from PND. She needs love, support, understanding and more importantly to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and that one day her heart will burst with love for her baby. Just as mine did.
Have you suffered from PND?
What one piece of advice would you give a new Mum with bonding issues or PND?