Nanny Rosa went peacefully to Heaven yesterday morning. Mum said she smiled like someone was greeting her.
For that we are thankful but it doesn't make the loss any easier.
I wrote this post a couple of nights ago when I was sad, teary and angry all in rolled into one big emotion. But I still wanted to post it, so here it is.
My Nanny is still fighting on, the doctor said she is a strong woman, and that she is. However heaven is calling and we want her to find her peace.
A very BIG thank you for all your kind messages of love, support and strength during this difficult time for me and my family.
I don't want to start a debate on euthenasia here, that's not what this post is about. But when you see a loved one in agony and there is no hope, there has to be something more dignified than our current palliative care. They put animals down for less.
You see if you haven't seen someone near end of life with cancer then perhaps you may not understand why I say this. Terminal melanoma is horrific, it goes from your lymph nodes, to your bones and then your organs. One of the worse cancers you can get, if that's at all possible with cancer. Part of my Nanny's bones are destroyed by the cancer and it's in every bone in her upper body.
She is now on a syringe driver that releases continuous flow of pain relief. But the pain doesn't stop. Nanny then has further pain relief injections for the breakthrough pain every 30 minutes. She now can't talk, eat or drink.
This medication doesn't calm her and she is restless and agitated, further medication is needed to calm her. All the while my Mum and her two sisters are there on shifts around the clock at the hospital, ensuring she is never ever alone.
It's not pretty, it's not right and there has to be a better way for people who are at end of life.
I struggle everyday with being away from Nanny and especially my Mum. I need to be at home but part of me wants to jump on a plane and head back down. Perhaps that's what I may do on the weekend, I'm not sure. I'm not sure of much lately.
I'm grieving in advance as I know what's coming in probably only a few days.
Right now all I want to be around is my Hubby, our son and my close friends and family. The thought of being around any other people makes me feel agitated. I don't know why, it just does.
Laughing and being joyous doesn't seem right to me at the moment.
Beautiful Nanny sleep peacefully and know you are loved for always and forever. xxoo